Friends and Divorce

My longtime friend is getting a divorce. We've been friends for 16 years and they've been married for 19. He served her the papers in March and they have a court date set for August 28. Between child placement and finances there really isn't much time to think or do anything else. I've been noticeably more irritable and I think it's a response to her divorce and our changing friendship. We are more different than alike and it seems to be a wedge in our friendship now. The divorce is changing the way she looks at life, she's never been a real strong believer in Christ and even less so now. The kids seem more needy and demanding and the discipline is lacking. Now they are considering medicating their 8 year old daughter due to her anger outbursts. I think it's a normal response for a child going through a divorce, to be angry. She's lost control of her life and is now being bounced around from her dad's apartment to her home. Dad is making drastic changes in his appearance and hobbies and mom cries and yells all the time. Anyway back to my irritability, since we only talk about the divorce, the possible other woman, problems with her kids, extreme financial troubles, etc. etc., I can't really talk about anything from my side. My "troubles" are nothing near her troubles. I can only pray that in time this will work itself out and our friendship will be like it use to be (kind of).